Hi, we are Alec and Kelcey, and before we share our story with you, we simply want to say, thank you. Thank you for your strength, hope, and selflessness in exploring how to provide the best future for your baby. We want you to know that a child adopted into our family doesn't replace their first family. The kiddo that we adopt will be one who learns to laugh and cry and take adventures and live in our home AND knows the unimaginable love of their first family. We are so grateful to be able to share God’s love through this family extension of adoption!
We met as college students in San Diego in August of 2007 where we both were on campus early for some training as ministry leaders. When Alec asked Kelcey to the zoo on their first date, we both knew it was something special. After many more zoo dates, ministry adventures, and three years of dating, we got married.
After two advanced degrees and a move to Kansas City and back, we decided to start trying to expand our family. We experienced unexplained infertility and therefore turned to adoption. We welcomed our first son, Caleb, into our home in December of 2018 through adoption. We then became foster parents in late 2020 and moved to Denver in 2021 for Alec to become a librarian.
Though many of our dreams had been fulfilled, we still felt a part of our family was missing. Now that we are settled here, we are excited to expand our family once again through another adoption.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
12.30.22 Our cats that Kelcey and I adopted just a few short months after we got married died in the last year and we recently decided to head to the shelter and bring home two new kittens! Caleb helped us pick out the two "little fellas," as he calls them, and introduce them to our home. Their names are Storm, the gray one, and Snowdrop, the white one. They are so patient with Caleb when he picks them up or plays with them and we can't sit down without one or both jumping into our laps with a loud purr for a snuggle. We're excited to adjust our life and home to two cats again! Snuggle time, whether Kelcey wants it or not.
November 8, 2022 We aren't British. Nor is it November 5th. But Alec and I like watching movies around different holidays or specific dates as a fun activity to do together. Around now, we watch V for Vendetta, since the movie is centered around Guy Fawkes day. Other holiday/iconic day repeats are: Harry Potter (just the first one, but it's really hard to just stop at one) around Halloween, Love Actually and Elf the couple of weeks before Christmas, and Jaws or Independence Day on the 4th of July. While there aren't hard and fast rules around what movies we re-watch, when, we are coming up on a season where we have lots of traditions we do stick with as we anticipate the coming of Jesus' birth during advent. Since we started dating over 15 years ago, I write something for us to do together as a family on each day of advent. The activities have changed as we've added Caleb and we are looking forward to rediscovering how we wait for the celebration of Jesus' birth as our family continues to change. Here are a few other fun things from the past month! Caleb turns 4! Feeding the giraffees...
October 8, 2022 Fall is showing up in the Aspens and we are here for it! We left Caleb with Kelcey's parents and went up to Brekenridge for Kelcey's birthday weekend to soak up the crisp air and changing colors. This weekend, we ventured just 30 minutes up 285 just outside Conifer for another beautiful fall hike with Alec's parents, who are retired and come to visit a couple times a year. Hold off just a little bit longer, snow! The Brekenridge Troll You can pick your friends. You can pick your nose. But don't pick your friends' nose. Ice skating time! Getting some Christmas card pictures
August 29, 2022 We've been soaking up the sun in July and August and are sad to say bye to our time with family and lounging around. Kelcey ventured into new territory, finally getting a tattoo with her sisters--something they've been talking about doing for years and now all 3 have matching mountain landscapes! Alec enjoyed a slower pace at the library and added a few new LEGO sets to the collection--our Harry Potter world is coming together nicely. Caleb went to summer camp 3 mornings a week to see his friends and got super brave going down the tall, twirly slide at our local rec center pool. This fall, he's trying out soccer with the rec league and AWANAs at church. As we get back into more of a routine of school (for all 3 of us!), our hearts are continuing to prepare for growing family and we pray constantly for peace and confidence for whomever chooses to become part of our family. Harry Potter LEGO world! Kelcey and her sisters, Kiley and Nicki, and their matching tattoos Caleb with his growing cousin, Rhett Alec and Caleb at the Children's Museum, where we have an annual pass this year
July 6, 2022 We can't believe it's July already; this summer is just flying by! We've had lots of fun going to the Science museum, having living room picnics, pool, hanging with family, and just soaking up the sunshine. In a few weeks, Alec's parents are going to come visit and stay with us for a week, which we are looking forward to. Kelcey is going back to California to visit for a weekend and eat as much seafood and soak in the beach rays as possible. We love the slower pace of the summer for work (Alec has a lot of flexibility and as a teacher, Kelcey gets a full 10 weeks to stay up late and sleep in. And our garden has exploded; we got to experience our first zucchini of the season last night, grilled up--yum! Caleb and Kelcey making cookies. Sprinkler fun! Fun times with Aunt Nicki and cousin Rhett
June 6, 2022 Friday was Kelcey's last day of the school year, so we celebrated the beginning of summertime with a camping trip to Rocky Mountain National Park. It's been a little bit since we went camping with Caleb, but he was a total champ, hiking, making s'mores (even though he just wanted to eat "cold marshmallows"), and checking out all the wildlife we saw. We saw a fox, herds of elk, a marmot, and 5 different moose--one of which ran through our campground (the last picture is the marmot up close to the window at the Alpine Visitor Center at 11,796 feet high)! It was a great start to summer and we can't wait to keep camping as a family for years to come.
May 24, 2022 Kelcey's sister, Nicki, had her baby and we are so excited to have a nephew just 30 minutes away to love on and grow up with. This is Nicki's first child and we're already planning museum outings, camping trips, and matching cousin outfits. Caleb was enamoured with Rhett and even picked out a meerkat at the zoo to give him so they can match. And I can't believe my little sister is old enough to be a parent; it seems like just yesterday I was jumping in the pool first to make sure I would catch her when she jumped in because she was too little to swim that far. Time doesn't follow its own rules with the ones we love. Uncle Ben (Rhett's dad) and Caleb--holding his giraffe just like baby Rhett. Aunt Kelcey and her nephew, Rhett!
April 25, 2022 We are so excited to break out our shorts and shovels to welcome spring. We're getting our vegetable beds ready for some tomatoes, squash, and peas as well as some beds ready for flowers. Last weekend, we celebrated Easter at Kelcey's parents house complete with an egg hunt (although Caleb lost interest after finding a handful of eggs--he mostly wanted to eat the treats inside!). Above are flowers blooming in our front yard. Above is Caleb helping plant seeds in the backyard!
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